Broken Heart Syndrome

November 21, 2011

According to a newly released nationwide study at the University of Arkansas. women are seven times more likely to suffer from “broken heart syndrome”.  And, it’s tougher on older women.

Broken heart syndrome is real and happens when a sudden shock (such as learning of an affair) or prolonged stress causes heart attack-like symptoms or heart failure. The good news is people rarely die from it.  See article

Surprise: Politicians power + confidence= cockiness

interesting post on why powerful men cheat

Taking my wedding & engagement rings off my finger was a huge, and painful step for me. I felt naked. Depressed. Scared. Stigmatized. That life as a single mom was all too real.  I was shocked at the intense feelings removal stirred up.

Deleting your Ex

July 8, 2010

Imagine, no more running into your Read the rest of this entry »

We marry madly in love with incredible dreams of our joint future. Then, reality sets in along with the mundane tasks of life… dishes, laundry, compromise and perhaps kids. At some point the partner who initially made us feel “whole” because s/he had qualities we lacked (opposites attract concept) morphs into a creature who pushes all our buttons making for a challenging battleground & home life.

How does this happen? Many experts believe it’s because we act out our dysfunctional upbringing with a partner we unconsciously choose to help us heal our deepest wounds. If we have a partner who will work with us to close the wounds we are able to move on to a healthy, mature relationship. If not, we end up in an invisible marriage or separation & divorce.

The bad news is warring partners, divorced or not, can destroy childhoods. The conflict tears kids apart often leading to loneliness, depression and trust issues. One of the hardest challenges of divorce is how to help such parents resolve the conflicts that led to their divorce … so each can move forward to create a separate, loving, peaceful environment for their kids (and themselves).

So what to do when anger rears its ugly head?
Try this tip from comedian Phyliss Diller:
Phylliss recommends

“My recipe for dealing with anger and frustration: set the kitchen timer for twenty minutes, cry, rant, and rave, and at the sound of the bell, simmer down and go about business as usual.”

Having some tools to fall back on is one of the greatest gifts you can give your kids. How do you handle anger & frustration? Please share your tips below. Thanks!

andrewrennie photo

If “another woman” was one of the reasons your marriage ended you will love this. Second wives in England and Massachusetts are having such a hard time thanks to the “first wife” that they’ve banned together and created “Second Wives” support/bashing groups.

Some of their issues? That they and their kids suffer because hubby has others to support. Or that their predecessor isn’t playing fair thinking she’s a “first wife” instead of an “ex”.

Aaah, sweet justice!